Comments on: Shut The Duck Up

By: Laurie

Laurie — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 13:46:32 +0000

It’s great to have a voice in your head as long as it treats you as Tim says, “with the respect that you deserve, the kind of respect that you like to offer to other people.” Whenever my duck goes off (and when I notice it!) I take a step back and ask myself what I’d say to someone else in the same situation. I’d never tell them that they’re not good enough or that they’re stupid so why should I say that to myself? I’d give them words of support and encouragement – so that’s what I tell myself. I’ve noticed that the more I do this, the more natural it is for me to be supportive and understanding of myself.

By: Laurie

Laurie — Mon, 07 Jul 2008 13:31:20 +0000

It’s great to have a voice in your head, as long as it’s the one that Tim says “treats you with the respect that you deserve, the kind of respect that you like to offer to other people.” Whenever my duck goes off (and when I notice it!) I take a mental step back and think “what would I say to someone else in this situation?” I would never cut someone down and tell them they’re stupid, so why should I treat myself that way? I’d offer words of support and encouragement – so I say those words to myself. The more I do this, the more it becomes natural for me to be positive about (to) myself.

By: Gleb Reys

Gleb Reys — Thu, 29 May 2008 16:36:18 +0000

Hi Ethan,

Thanks for a great advice!

By: Ethan @ Self Improvement Mentor

Ethan @ Self Improvement Mentor — Thu, 29 May 2008 12:43:10 +0000

Yup the duck is usually there quacking away. What I normally do whenever i start ‘noticing’ the duck is that I totally & absolutely shock it out of sync. Break the pattern with by doing something really bizarre. I’ll just start thinking, saying or doing something really crazy. Some weird movements plus singing a song crazily would shut the duck up.

each time the duck shows up, interrupt is immediately. After doing it a number of times, the duck will start showing up less.. and slowly be replaced by a positive voice.

By: Kenneth King

Kenneth King — Thu, 01 May 2008 17:15:51 +0000

I solved the problem with some “duck tape”. Now he’s nice and quiet.

By: Gleb Reys

Gleb Reys — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 16:04:23 +0000

Thanks, Lee!

I’m just finishing this book up and it’s been a great read – simple and light, but thought-provoking. Great book!

By: lee

lee — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 00:26:38 +0000

Hi, what a very true article! I am extrememly lucky to have just gotten married to an amazing man who also happens to be an amazing therapist! i have been encouraged to listen, read and put into action any forms of personal development to help quell the "Duck" in my head that tells me i'm not good enough, pretty enough, sexy enough etc..I will look forward to reading the book along with the other forms of personal development i am undertaking, to be the best i can possibly be. I would love to share my experiences with you in my personal blog .

By: Gleb Reys

Gleb Reys — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 04:54:34 +0000

Thanks, Ali!

We’ll see how the book helps me, but I really look forward to reading it!

By: Ali from The Office Diet

Ali from The Office Diet — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 18:53:06 +0000

I really enjoyed this article. First read it in Tim’s excellent book (“Don’t Ask Stupid Questions – There Are No Stupid Questions) and it’s definitely helped me to take control of my inner voice.

I had an awful day at work on Wednesday (very angry boss) but knew I’d not done anything wrong. In the past, my duck would have said “You’re useless, you’re everyone done, no-one likes you” … but this time, I was able to put a firm stop to that quacking! :-)

Ali