It is incredible, how many things never get their chance to be done simply because we’re afraid to be the first ones to even try. We fear rejection and lack of acceptance, we fear a possible failure, and we generally would rather scrap a great idea than be courageous and adventurous enough to be the first. Well, it doesn’t have to be this way.
Why is being first so damn hard?
Why do we fear so much being first in doing something? Simply because it comes down to another very powerful fear of ours – the fear of the unknown.
We usually don’t like it when there’s something unknown about what we do or what we’re going to do. Facing the unknown means to us leaving the comfort zone, and we don’t generally like doing that, do we?! ;)
We also realise deep down inside, that being first in anything implies much more attention paid to you. And we usually don’t like this kind of attention, simply because we expect nothing positive out of it. What’s one of the first questions you ask yourself planning something really adventurous for the first time? That’s right! What’s the worst that could happen! No wonder you’re afraid to act! You’re asking the question before anything happens, and you’re already implying that something bad will happen.
Being first and feeling comfortable
People who make discoveries and set new records are just like everybody else – they’re not superhuman and they are not even necessarily talented The only unique feature about them is that they’re not afraid to be themselves! They are willing to do what it takes to reach their goals. And being the first ones is not only acceptable for them, but they welcome such an opportunity.
Why? Because they create positive and powerful beliefs related to their plans. They understand that everybody fails at some point, but they also realise that failures are nothing but an invaluable experience gained the fastest way possible. They have an ultimate vision of their goal, and if it’s going to take them a few failures to get there – it’s absolutely fine.
Setting the right beliefs is very important!
Making the impossible possible
Have you ever noticed the magic which happens every time someone achieves the unachievable? Making impossible things possible is one of the greatest joys you can have on this planet, because not only it gives you the victorious feeling, but it also empowers many others push a little bit harder and achieve the same!
Look at the modern technology, for example. The discoveries made today on a daily basis were believed to be impossible just a few years ago. Yet, as soon as a discovery is made, hundreds of other companies and research institutions immediately accept it and start using.
With sports, the magic of a breakthrough is even more obvious: it is widely believed that human body’s capabilities are well known and maxed out by modern athletes, yet old records are broken and new ones are set every Olympic game! Isn’t it amazing? Things nobody could do just a few years ago, are now possible and practiced by many athletes simply because now they know that it can be done!
Just think about it: virtually anything we do every day was believed or proclaimed to be impossible sometime in the past! Yet here we are, making progress every day and act on things without even questioning the possibility of so many things we make happen daily.
Don’t be afraid to be the first
You can’t overestimate the power of being able to set the right beliefs in order to be the first to do something. If you master the skill of setting positive beliefs and making powerful associations to the success of being the first, you’ll be unstoppable in anything you do.
Below I’d like to give you a list of common beliefs you can change to make any breakthrough possible. They have helped me, and they will help you. Spend few minutes a day working on setting positive beliefs and getting rid of the negative ones, and you’ll be thrilled with the immediate results!
- If something had never been done before, it’s not possible at all
WRONG! All this means is that nobody cared enough or tried hard enough to make it happen. All the most influential breakthroughs and discoveries were made this way: everyone believed something was not possible, and then one courageous person questioned the whole world and proposed an alternative theory. All it takes to make something possible is to shift your beliefs and expectations. If everyone believes you to fail, it still doesn’t mean you will!
Trust your feelings, and have the faith and courage to be the first!
- If I don’t make something happen, someone else will
WRONG! You are a unique human being. This means that every minute your mind has many thoughts running through it such a way that it may never occur to anybody else on this planet. Hey, some thoughts may never occur again even to yourself! That’s why it’s important to take notes of your ideas, after all!Don’t wait for somebody else to make a breakthrough. You can’t afford to miss your chance!
Be adventurous enough to question everything else around you, and only by doing that will you make a success of being the first one to achieve something!
- Leaving your comfort zone is dangerous
It sure feels like this, doesn’t it! But that’s not entirely true.Won’t you feel much proud of yourself if you do something different today, leave your comfort zone and do something outrageously unusual, and even make a success out of it?
The danger of leaving your comfort zone is rarely a physical one. Mostly you just don’t want to change your behaviour patterns and sacrifice the comfort for the sake of a questionable success.
But just think of this: only leaving your comfort zone makes you grow. Only by challenging yourself constantly you can progress and achieve better results. Only by thinking differently and looking at situations from a new angle you can make a breakthrough discovery.
So go on and do this! Be adventurous, have the courage to challenge yourself and achieve the unachievable!
- What if I make a mistake? It’s going to be a disaster!
While this is definitely an option, it’s up to you to make your project a success. Also, stop thinking it’s going to be a bigger problem simply because you’re the first one to try! Understand this: being the first to do something does not make the task harder to accomplish in any way but mentally. It is all about your approach, your expectations and your motivation, and nothing else.If it’s physically hard for you to do something no one had done before, please be assured that it’s going to be just as for to do the same for anyone who will follow you. The only advantage they’ll have is that they will know that it’s possible, because they will see you do it first.
Stop expecting the worst. Concentrate and apply yourself, try your best and forget about how you will look if you fail. Focus on the goal, and think instead about how you will look and feel when you succeed. Be positive! Doing something for the first time ever doesn’t have to be negative.
Have all the motivation you need to be the first
Here are just a few of the highly motivational reasons for you to become first in doing something:
- Once you are number one in anything, you will remember this feeling forever.
This is one of the most powerful motivators you can ever hope to find: become a winner and remember how good it feels. Plan a goal big enough, and you’ll get all the attention and admiration you ever dreamed of as soon as you achieve it!
- Once you have accomplished something impossible, everyone else will follow you.
People will do this simply because now they know it can be done. And you are the one that made it happen! How cool is that?! ;)
It’s incredible how many people still need reasons and proofs that some goals can be achieved, some things can be accomplished and some new records can be set.
Don’t wait for them, be the first one and get the joy from making something possible and real for everybody else!
- Enjoy constant growth by leading others and challenging yourself on a constant basis. It’s a never-ending game, really. Once you realise how powerful the joy of setting an example for others is, you’ll want to set new records and reach new goals even more. You’ll want to do something even more adventurous, and get even more please by seeing others following you.Enjoy the feeling of growing stronger and better everyday, simply by leaving your comfort zone and gaining new skills and experiences.
- Being first is both challenging and fun!
Whenever I see a possibility of being the first one to write/say/do something valuable, I always welcome such an opportunity and challenge myself to do my best and achieve the goal.I love challenge, and I hate people trying to discourage me without giving any reasons. I absolutely disagree with blindly following rules and limitations simply because others think I should. When I think of doing something adventurous and someone walks up to me and says: “Hey, forget it. I’ve tried it already and it doesn’t work”, I always ask for reasons and explanations. If something is “simply doesn’t work”, to me this sounds like “someone didn’t really try” ;)With technical problems, it could also mean that someone had used up all the immediate potential and it was easier for a person to give up than to continue the search for a solution. Again, I love such problems because it will make me feel much better when I solve them and help others by doing so. Challenge yourself to be the first one to do something! The joy of being the first (and for a short period of time – the only!) one to have coped with the challenge is definitely worth it.
I guess that’s it! I certainly enjoyed writing this one today, and I hope you’ll follow me in setting the right set of believes to achieve even better results in everything you do.
We live in exciting times! Every day there is a magic of something new and beautiful being created and brought into this world. Who makes all this magic happen, you wonder? YOU and me. Everybody.